Baal teshuva dating
What was interesting was that so many of the ones I met were children of ba’alei teshuvah. I felt their pain when they had to stifle their questions in fear of waking from slumber their parents’ unresolved doubts.
And how our parents choices affected us in so many ways.Years later, when I was a full time filmmaker, my semi-secret desire was to produce a documentary about children of ba’alei teshuvah. Of our yearning to belong, even while hauled in so many directions.Of how we deeply understood the pull to both the mundane and the holy.By claiming the prize, the winner authorizes the use, without additional compensation of his or her name and/or likeness (first initial and last name) and municipality of residence for promotion and/or advertising purposes in any manner and in any medium (including without limitation, radio broadcasts, newspapers and other publications and in television or film releases, slides, videotape, distribution over the internet and picture date storage) which CJFL may deem appropriate.In accepting the prize, the winner, acknowledges that CJFL may not be held liable for any loss, damages or injury associated with accepting or using this prize.Yakov Horowitz Ba’alei Teshuva—sometimes translated to mean “penitents,” but, more commonly used to refer to Jews from secular backgrounds who have become religiously observant, often hareidi, or ultra-Orthodox—have been held in high regard by Jewish tradition.
In the Talmud (Berachot 34b), Rabbi Abbahu says: The [elevated] position that ba’alei teshuva attain, tzadikim gemurim [those who were always righteous] are unable to reach.” Try telling that to Avigail Meizlik, who recently wrote a controversial article in Mishpacha, a highly regarded English hareidi magazine, about “issues” ba’alei teshuva (BTs) face when they try to affiliate with various hareidi communities in Israel. Meizlik, when it comes time to register their children in mainstream hareidi schools, the BTs are rejected, finding, to their dismay, that they were never really part of their chosen community after all. In the United States, too, the children of BTs—along with the offspring of Jews of Sephardic background—are increasingly denied entry into mainstream hareidi schools.
My father takes the worn paper from my hand and looks at me expectantly. Growing up in an Orthodox community, you learn that people are generally dumped into two categories: those who are Frum From Birth (FFBs) or Ba’alei Teshuvah (BTs).
But for all-intents-and-purposes, it fits.) By comparison, I would be described as FFB: raised in the fold; studied in Chassidic schools my whole childhood; totally enmeshed in halachic Judaism.
There was something different about us, those whose parents came to halachic Judaism later in life.
It went beyond the obvious — and I wondered if it was just me who noticed it.
See, as children of ba’alei teshuvah, we are a part and apart from our parents’ path. From day 1, we’re demanded to stand inside while peering from without. I memorized the ‘ma nishtana’ in both Hebrew and Yiddish. Because, like my parents who stand behind me, I bear the weight of worlds that seem to live only in opposition But inside me, meld into one.