Birthday gift for a guy you just started dating
If he or she mentions their upcoming birthday in passing, you should casually ask: "Fun, how are you planning to celebrate?" The best case scenario is that they say something like "Oh, probably just doing X with my friends," which makes it clear that you won't be really expected to join in or participate—which is fine.
”“Hey, You-Know-Who, I bought you a Christmas present.”“I can’t!Spring for a pair of cute and affordable gloves from, say, J. DON’T: Run out and buy him a new Barbour coat, a set of Kastle skis, or a 100% real mink trapper hat. Nothing’s better than a homemade batch of holiday cookies or brownies. DO: Plan a gift you can do together—like tickets to a concert, exhibition, or a play.DON’T: Planning it for months and months and months in advance. Likewise, don’t be that girl and book a romantic weekend at that adorable B&B upstate. DON’T: Treat him to a 9-course dinner at a Michelin-starred restaurant, and present him with a bottle of Glenmorangie Pride 1981.DO: Get him a gift that’s reflective of something topical you’ve discussed. Get him a book of one of your favorite modern artists. Get him a new cooking gadget, a new cookbook you know he doesn’t have, or gift card to a specialty food store.” My dad yells from the living room.“You got engaged at two months,” I yell back.“So?
” I hear my father flipping channels.“So I don’t trust your timetable! ”My first boyfriend and I had been dating two months when Christmas came along.
Obviously, you don’t want to go too big, yet you don’t want to not give anything at all. DO: Get a subscription to a streaming service they don’t have.
The goal: a gift that manages to say “I-like-you-but-we’re-still-getting-to-know-each-other-and-that’s-totally-cool.” It also pays to understand that a small present—something thoughtful, semi-personal, and affordable—is the way to go when you’re dating a brand-new guy. They might have Netflix, but chances are they don’t have Netflix, Hulu HBO Go.
DON’T: Get him something completely cliché like a tie if he wears jeans and tees to work, a baseball book if he hates sports, a universal remote for his TV, any sort of grilling apparatus, a box of golf balls, a power drill, a huge bag of “masculine” grooming essentials, or a subscription to the beer of the month club if you’ve never seen him drink beer.
DO: Make him a cool winter Spotify playlist with songs you’re digging right now, and an i Tunes gift card.
”“He’s watching The Godfather again,” my mom says, then: “You do care about-”“Don’t say the name! I’d planned his gift—a copy of Edward Albee’s Seascape and a gum wrapper necklace—for 90 days, and watching him open it, I knew I’d scored. Although strangely, I’m fine with giving hand-jobs. Not only do I try to keep hand-job references to a minimum with them, but I don’t believe past trauma excuses present dysfunction.