Books on dating widowers
Take pause and ask yourself if you would rather your new partner didn't care about his/her late spouse.You might consider the fact that the better the relationship a new partner had in a past relationship, the more he/she knows about how to make unions work.
If you pay close attention, you actually may learn many interesting things about your new partner, for example: how he/she views the world; how he/she treats a partner; likes and dislikes, etc.If circumstances require that you move into the home shared with a late spouse, it would be beneficial to have a frank discussion about what can be changed to make you feel as if it is your home too.It is at this time that you can negotiate about the items he/she would like to keep around.TALKING ABOUT A LATE SPOUSE: SHOULD YOU ASK QUESTIONS? If a couple were married at a young age, married a long time, or have children/grandchildren, it is going to be very difficult to talk about his/her life without mentioning a late spouse.This can only be threatening to you, if you allow it to be. He or she is not coming back, so you are not going to lose your new mate to him or her. In general, when you get to know someone you want to share your past with him or her. This time it just happens to include a person that is no longer alive.That is very good news for you and your new relationship!
PICTURES OF A LATE SPOUSE Perhaps when you first start dating, there are many pictures of a late spouse around your new partner's home.
You can gently drop some hints about the pictures, especially if they are on the bed stand table.
If there are children and some of the pictures are family pictures, it is probably unrealistic to think that every picture will be put away.
Perhaps you could suggest moving them to a child's rooms or at least off the wall in the living room.
Another alternative, of which I learned from a woman who was dating a widower is that she intended to have two walls of pictures in their new home.
One would include those of her intended and his late spouse, and the next wall would be a continuation of pictures of the life they were leading.