Boundaries in christian dating relationships
Crystal Mc Dowell is a writer, speaker, and teacher with a passion to encourage believers to know and grow in their relationship with Jesus Christ through practical application of God’s word.Crystal and her husband, Marshall, raise their five children in the Bloomington, IL.
It’s an awesome feeling of freedom when couples encourage one another to grow spiritually.Many Christian couples struggle in their relationships because they forget the core principles of godliness, purity, and unconditional love that is modeled in scripture.If two believers are in a relationship, it would help for them to study the following 7 Bible quotes: When couples really love each other, they want the best for each other in all things.Listening to each other praying gives an indication of the comfort level in speaking to God with requests and thanksgiving.When the Lord answers the dating couple’s prayer, there is a greater sense of confidence in approaching God together.“No members of the opposite sex in your rooms, except from -pm on Tuesdays and Thursdays, and only after they’ve signed in. And sexual issues can totally undermine even the most well-intentioned, Christ-centered relationships. But sometimes physical boundaries in dating relationships can often toe the line of legalism. If, “No laying on the couch together, when its past midnight, when we’re alone in the house, when the lights are off, when Conan is over, when we’re under a blanket, when the barometric pressure is below 30, when I don’t have to work in the morning, when you’re not wearing a turtleneck” is one of your boundaries…then you probably have too many boundaries. Your boundaries include the phrase “only once a month.” If you have a clause that states ‘If we follow these rules faithfully for a month we get to reward ourselves by engaging in 30 minutes of premarital spooning once per month”…then your boundaries/motives for actually having boundaries probably need to be reevaluated. Your boundaries include the words “but only when we’re standing up.” Anything that you can do laying down, you can probably do standing up. Or my personal favorite, we can kiss, but not for ‘extended’ periods of time.
While a guest is in the room, the door must be propped open a minimum of six inches.” Seriously, this was a rule. Here’s when you know your physical boundaries in dating relationships have gone too far. And now it’s going to look REALLY awkward when your roommate accidentally walks in on you. Good luck defining those adjectives when you’re in the moment.
True love isn’t a selfish act—rather it’s the unconditional love that flows from the Spirit of God into their relationship.
Physical attraction is trumped by the pure love of God that couples can show one another.
That rule, trying to grow facial hair, and being prematurely overconfident about my ability to actually convince girls to come to my room are the only things I remember about my freshman year of college. “We were just trying be faithful to our boundaries” isn’t going to ease the awkwardness.
I got a “Values Violation” for having my door propped open only 4.5 inches while studying with a female Spanish tutor that I wasn’t the least bit attracted to.
Every day there are opportunities for the faith of couples to falter.