Boundaries in dating review
Some highlights of the book for me were the sections that addressed the importance of a solid base of friendship in dating relationships, the warnings of premature commitment and over-involvement (in other words, “too much, too fast”), and the admonishment to live out relationships in the context of community, as opposed to isolation.
While traveling the country, speaking to singles about dating, the authors, psychologists Drs.Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle.Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator -- Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations.She had given up activities she enjoyed; she had given up relationships she valued.She had tried to become the kind of person she thought Todd would be attracted to. That's why the maturity of the two people involved is very important.He has an extensive executive coaching background and experience as a leadership consultant, devoting the majority of his time working with CEOs, leadership teams, and executives to improve performance, leadership skills, and culture. Cloud lives in Los Angeles with his wife, Tori, and their two daughters, Olivia and Lucy. John Townsend is a leadership consultant, psychologist, and bestselling author.
He has written twenty-seven books, selling 10 million copies, including the three million-selling Boundaries series.
Cloud and Townsend also discuss sexual boundaries, conflict, risk, romance, unresolved family problems and their impact on dating relationships, and other essential topics.
“Dating right side up,” an exhortation to fit our dating life into our spiritual life (not vice versa) was another highlight for me.
Cloud and Townsend speak to the most common relationship challenges, provide responsible advice, and encourage good parameters that we need for all relationships, romantic or otherwise.
Simply put, my fellow Christian singles, let’s learn all we can and figure out this healthy dating stuff now so that we too will be able to start marriage right…even if it takes some struggling and wrestling, a few tears, maybe a few years, and perhaps even some book tossing and retrieving!
When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: - Can I set limits and still be a loving person? - What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.