Dating guys on the rebound
So I blocked and deleted him from my phone, Facebook, and Snapchat.
I get that you’re obviously still hurting from the break-up, no matter what you say here to the contrary, but you’re not going to move forward by assuming he’s somehow “settling” for her.Men don’t “revenge date” any more than women do; it’s a waste of our time.If he’s with her, and he’s as happy with her as you claim he is, there is probably something in her that he sees as worthy of his time and effort.I mean, you block him, but then you complain he “hid” the relationship from you?Maybe his privacy settings on Facebook are different than hers.The guys I’ve known don’t “revenge date.” However, they do sometimes date people for fun, just to have some companionship and maybe get laid, particularly on the rebound.
Have you considered that he may actually like the girl, and enjoy her company?
He’s rushing into it, they quickly went public with the relationship, he’s still seemingly interested in you, etc.
— all of that sounds like a rebound, or at least a casual “relationship.” She’s probably totally in the dark and… I’m gonna stop right there because why do you even care about any of this?
Diablo Your letter tells me more about you than your ex or his new girl. You describe your ex’s new girl as “several steps below” you, “bat crap crazy,” “seriously overweight,” “looks like a drag queen.” You denigrate her because she has a child and a low paying job, like lots of single mothers deserving support and sympathy.
It would be hard work dating someone who thinks that she is “several steps above” other people. You need to do some work on you, starting with the unfortunate idea that you are better than anybody.
But instead of trying to figure out what that is, I’d suggest looking inward and using your experiences in this relationship to help you discover what you do and don’t want in your next one.