Dating psychology and body language
How often have you met a cute guy or gone out on a first date and wondered, “Is he interested or not?
Generally, we make greater eye contact when listening but, when speaking, alternate between making eye contact and looking away for brief periods of time.In one study cited in the book, , participants watched a short film of a couple interacting with a sound off and the results showed that women correctly read the situation 87 percent accuracy, while men read the situation with only 42 percent accuracy.So be mindful of your own body language, and do your best to show him that you are interested.Say you are sitting with your elbows on the table and your chin resting on your hands.If your date mirrors you with a similar position, it likely means that he is engaged in your conversation.If he is leaning away, but making eye contact, it might just be that he is really comfortable in his chair.
While this is technically not nonverbal body language, verbal tracking is another indication if he is interested in you and what you have to say.
So, when searching for clues, look for strong but not too intense eye contact as an indication of interest.
If someone is staring you down unblinkingly and making you feel uncomfortable, this would be a case of too much eye contact.
This is a compliment because it means that he is feeling comfortable and connected. I always keep an eye out for it with my clients in my work as a therapist.
If my client mirrors the way my hands are resting on my chair or the way I am sitting in my chair, I take it as a positive sign that my client is attuned to our conversation.
If he is leaning back or is slightly turned away, he might be indicating that he isn’t feeling a strong connection to you.