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” and I was like “No, we’re not having sex,” and I kept making out with him. I think that in Brazil I wouldn’t care, but here it’s complicated.NIGERIA“I’m sometimes taken aback by the hook-up culture here and how people are able to be intimate with people they just met 2 seconds ago. In Nigeria, when you would get hit on, mostly a guy would come up to you and say he wanted to be your friend, not like ‘I think you’re pretty, let’s go out.’ Guys do walk up to you in Nigeria but they try to hide their motives.“In Nigeria, many types of men can be possessive (mostly the ones raised with no form of outside influence) and feel like they should have a say in your life.
We asked eight NYU international students to talk about their experiences dating and connecting to Americans. BRAZILThe biggest difference is that for us making out is pretty chill, you know? When I think of dates, I think of thirty year olds desperate to get married. I feel like here people have a circle of personal space that they only allow a few careful chosen people to penetrate.But honestly, in America, you have access to a lot more people.You’re able to get to know so many people from different parts of the world.Women are just as flirtatious at home, but I’ve never seen anyone chase a guy and continue to do so even after he says he’s taken.”KOREA“Korean girls expect a lot from men.They’re very clingy, and expect guys to buy them everything, to surprise them with big events all the time.What I realized with Americans is that if you make out with them the way we do in Brazil, they get the wrong idea. ” He tried to sound really nice as he was asking me what was the point in “this.” So American, right? The first time I went on a date with an American guy I was so nervous because I felt like we had no intimacy whatsoever. For me, dating is meeting a 20 year-old that is a friend of a friend at a bar, thinking he’s cute, and then your friend making things happen. And then you still don’t go on a date, you say things like: “Everyone’s going to that bar on Friday, will you be there? It’s harder to meet people here — they’re anti-social.
I’m always scared that they’re going to assume that kissing is anything more than “I’m kind of interested in you.”The first guy I went out with here, while we were making out he asked me, “Should I get a condom? I hope so.” I don’t know why I would put myself through the experience of being forced to talk to someone, but not even knowing if you like them. And I don’t know if I want to hook up with anyone in my circles.
And Korea definitely has a growing hook-up culture, but it’s still not as severe as America’s.”INDIA“The American dating culture is very fast. In India, my friends have dated for a couple of months/years and it’s very hard for them to overcome a break-up.
American dating culture is also very open — when a couple is dating, everyone knows about it.
But here guys are so straightforward and they know what they want, so it’s better.“The way Americans approach relationships is very open and not monogamous. Automatically, if I’m seeing someone, I don’t even look at other people.“Back home, there are friends with benefits, but it’s not well-known. You date from the same social pool, so if there’s a one night stand it’s gonna be super awkward.“I feel like men here don’t take charge as much.
In Turkey if there’s gonna be cheating it’s cheating, but here it’s like, ‘No! Most of the guys seem less interested, they seem lazy, and that’s kind of weird.
Relationships like that are generally frowned upon and condemned.