Internet dating etiquette guidelines
With dating comes an unwritten code of behaviour, which is more commonly known as ‘Dating Etiquette’.
“There’s a sort of New Age chivalry about that.” Unfortunately, the rule seems even less clear for those in the LGBT community, says Morningside Heights resident and comedian Stephanie Foltz, who is bisexual.The obvious response to this message is ‘no’, because quite frankly, if ‘wanna chat’ is the best you can come up with in an attempt to stand out from the competition then you're going to get nowhere fast.Your first message, your first point of contact with someone you like the look of on the site, needs to stand out and catch their eye. Technology and new ideas about sex and gender have dramatically changed the laws of love, from who pays for dinner to how long to wait to call after a date.“It’s sort of like the Wild West out there,” says Alex Manley, dating and sex editor at Ask The question is, do you delete your profile or is it too soon?
It can be hard to know what to do in these early stages as you neither want to tempt fate by removing your profile or worse, come across as too eager, nor do you want to keep your profile on the site all the while ignoring messages that you are receiving.
Just don’t overdo it, and remember that humor and tone don’t always come through in a text.
“[Texting] is a great way to flirt, maybe give them a taste of who you are,” says dating coach Chrisler.
Simply be polite and let them down gently by saying ‘sorry, you’re out of my age range’ or ‘I’m looking for someone who lives a little closer’ and then wish them well in their continued search.
How to cope if you get the ‘thanks, but no thanks’ message From time to time you may receive the odd ‘thanks, but no thanks’. Rejection is never easy for anyone to take, but it does happen to everyone at some point in their lives.
After all, you know how the saying goes, there’re plenty more fish...