My girlfriend is dating others
Healthy things like “compromise” are now frowned upon by women’s advice-givers.The college lifestyle of being busy all the time is taken further and further into adulthood.
Looking back now, I can say I foolishly ran right back to her.I’m not looking for advice, but I just wanted to say that (as a man) you give solid advice to women.A good female friend of mine found her fiancé as a result of reading your advice. I’m OK with not being her #1, but between her many (and growing) friends, hobbies, and endeavors, I find it increasingly difficult to spend an acceptable amount of time with her.She still wanted to date me and I believe we did go out for another date or two but it was never the same for me.We seemed to run in to each other frequently and my heart always skipped a beat when I saw her but we never did resume dating.The sad part is that she really doesn’t perceive that her life is inaccessible for a man.
I’m a tough guy but being made to feel like I’m the leftover backup plan, however unintentionally, is just not what I want in a partner. I grew up with a mother who was so “involved” in the community and career that my Dad and me were just filler time.
I feel the same dynamic with this lady and I don’t want that for me or my eventual kids.
This woman has a severe fear of ending up old and alone, and yet it’s not enough to make her change her behavior.
It’s not a money thing but more of a do-gooder thing to her.
In any case, she took my understanding a little for-granted and added the second day before mentioning it to me.
Your advice regarding women with unusual or difficult schedules is spot-on. She’s been either in school or a high-powered job her entire life. The last straw was when she decided to work at a year-long weekend festival both Saturday and Sunday mornings.