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In fact, his first reaction when I tell him about Jess, Meet Ken is that it sounds too complex: “That’s a lot of hoops to jump through, especially for a guy. ”On the other hand, the women I spoke with seemed more willing to trade ease for security, since safety is a bigger priority to them.
Jess reached out to Adele to inquire about Ken–and the rest is sleepless history.“After responding to one guy’s message, he sent me a list of all the things he wanted to do with me in bed–and it was truly disgusting,” Kate tells me.“I immediately blocked him, but for days, I walked around with the fear that I might bump into him in real life and he would recognize me from my picture and personal details.” Many women told me how common it was for men to send unsolicited pictures of their genitals.She attributes part of this to the fact that the big players (Ok Cupid, e Harmony, Plenty of Fish, Match) and the majority of the niche ones (Skout, How About We, Meet Moi) were started by men.Just this year, the world has seen exactly how male-dominated the culture at these dating startups can be.This mimics offline dating scenarios where a couple are introduced by a mutual friend.
There can be more accountability when a third party is involved.
“There are times when I am just interested in a hookup, but if I am too obvious about it, I feel like I will be slut-shamed,” she says.
“The guys messaging me treat me with even less respect.” Both Kate and Talia like the sound of Jess, Meet Ken because they think that men might behave better if they know that their actions might get back to the female friend who posted their profile.
Tinder, one of the hottest dating apps on the market, had a female cofounder, Whitney Wolfe, but she filed a sexual harassment suit against the company after receiving abusive text messages from her cofounder.
(The suit was recently settled.) Wolfe was driven to legal action because none of the other men in Tinder’s leadership were willing to intervene, even after she expressed her distress.
On their new site, called Jess, Meet Ken, women can recommend eligible bachelors they know; single woman browsing the site can then either reach out to the man himself or to the woman who vouches for him.